There are things I’d have wanted to know when I was a teenager. Having then the knowledge I have now would have saved me a great deal of trouble, pain and tears. And much more.
Life is significantly easier in your late twenties and thirties. Now you realise that:
1. Your first long-term girlfriend/boyfriend was not the best thing that happened to you. Life does not end when you break up. (Yes, you will find someone as good – often better, as it appears – if you break up.)
2. You can truly love more than once. (Films show a mendacious depiction of life. There is not this only one person in the world destined for you, you don’t need to stress out about that.)
3. Sex is important in a relationship, this area is not to be underestimated.
4. The rule saying opposites attract does not apply to healthy relationships. In certain things two people have to be unanimous, in some – complete each other, and in the rest – balance each other out.
5. Confidence is what makes people sexy. You are one of a kind. You don’t need to be a model to be attractive – every girl/guy has that unique ‘thing’ of their own that will appeal to opposite sex.
6. You can choose your friends. It is detrimental to your psyche to try being friends with everyone. Or be one of the ‘cool kids’. (The cool kids later grow up to be un-cool, bold, fat adults.)
7. You should never scratch your spots – they will leave orange-peel scars for the rest of your life (can be squeezed out only under certain conditions). You should not smoke (you can try, of course, why not) – apart from everything else, your teeth will look horrible for the rest of your life. You should not neglect your body – if you exercise and eat breakfast, and you will feel good for the rest of your life.
The above are some experience-led opinions on the subject of love life, social life and life in general. One day I hope to be able to reveal them to my kids. If you have your own, please let me know. I will add them to the list of things my kids should know.