When you meet an old friend, whom you haven’t seen for years (and that was for a reason), yet she/he says ‘We should catch up, I’ll give you a call/ give me a call’ – they don’t mean it. So you reply ‘Sure’ and don’t mean it. You both know it’s not going to happen. Or do you?
In my naivety I used to take people’s words as they were uttered. I believed when you were giving your word, you should try your hardest to deliver. Life’s taught me that – as bad as it is to lie – under certain circumstances it is acceptable to say things without really meaning them. It’s part of the social contract. ‘I will see you’, ‘Let’s keep in touch’ can often be just empty phrases. Both parties, however, need to know that. Right???